I am certain I am not the only one who at some point in their life has wanted to make someone else do something. It may be a teacher at school requesting his students to listen, a parent or babysitter teaching the right way to do something--whether or not there always is a "right" way is another series of posts, but yes there often IS a "right" way--I have even noticed this tendency in young children playing together. Because of this seemingly universal challenge and my passion for music, the extended metaphor of this General Conference talk really hit me. It still speaks to me and I know it can and will touch some of you.
“No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood”—or by
virtue of being the dad or the mom or the biggest or the loudest—“only by persuasion, by long-
suffering, by gentleness and meekness, … by love unfeigned; [and] by kindness”
the gospel. When they are present, the dance steps will be
performed more naturally and joyfully by all of the dancers in
the family, without the need for threats or intimidation or
compulsion."
For those of you not familiar with the talk, go ahead and open the link. I'll wait...No seriously.
For those of you not familiar with the talk, go ahead and open the link. I'll wait...No seriously.
So what did you think? Many of my friends probably heard it before and if you have, did you remember it? Interesting tangent: picture of Navajo medicine man for reference. I love the power in the metaphor that dancing can help heal and that the medicine man could teach the doctor the steps but not necessarily how to hear the music. Dancing is a joyful expression, a beautiful blending of technique and emotion; this carries weight in the metaphor I think.
Lately I have been praying for the Lord to help me learn compassion. I view this as
Returning to Elder Wilford W. Andersen's talk,
If early efforts at making music seem dissonant and discordant, remember that dissonance
a merciful and nurturing sort of love independent of the recipient's worthiness or desires. I have high standards for myself and others am painfully aware of my default setting of coercion when it comes to "teaching" what is right. (My daughter, Victoria, recently picked up the line, "But you have to let me do this myself or I will never learn...") For the past several months, the Lord has blessed me to be very aware of my feelings and motivations, even in the moment. I am still learning to be temperate but I nevertheless hear the music of the gospel more often than not. But much like a musician wishing to take her musicianship to the next level, the Spirit of the Lord must be present for me to make lasting improvements. That's part of the power of Christ's Atonement.
Returning to Elder Wilford W. Andersen's talk,
cannot be corrected by criticism. Dissonance in the home is like darkness
in a room. It does little good to scold the darkness. We must displace the darkness by introducing light.
So if the basses in your family choir are too loud and overbearing, or if the string section in
your family orchestra is a little too shrill or a little bit sharp, or if those impetuous piccolos are
out of tune or out of control, be patient. If you’re not hearing the music of the gospel in your
home, please remember these two words: keep practicing.
May I add my testimony to his that "[w]ith God’s help, the day will come when the music of the gospel will fill your home with unspeakable joy." Being a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has meant learning the dance steps as well as how to hear the music of Christ's gospel. It is a life-long listening cycle and one that has blessed my life immeasurably. I know that
Even when performed well, the music will not solve all of our problems. There will still be
crescendos and decrescendos in our lives, staccatos and legatos. Such is the nature of life on
planet earth. [I once had a wise professor of religion label these things "evidences of the Fall."]
But when we add music to the dance steps, the sometimes complicated rhythms of marriage
and family life tend to move toward a harmonious balance. Even our most difficult challenges
will add rich plaintive tones and moving motifs.
So no matter where you are in life, tune in to the Lord's radio station and start dancing. He will help you find joy in even the awkward beginner's phases, a foretaste of the joy He himself feels as we progress towards our infinite potential as His own spirit sons and daughters. You must learn to join the dance!

